Addiction: Dating in Sobriety

More often than not, individuals who have a substance abuse disorder also suffer from low self-esteem issues. Some people use drugs or alcohol to fit into a crowd, others use to help relax before meeting new people. In some cases, individuals will use trying to gain the attention and acceptance of a love interest who is also using. Given the importance many place on romantic relationships, this can be a stumbling block that keeps someone from entering treatment and a life of recovery.

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Here are seven reasons that demonstrate living a sober life is good for your love life.

1 – Appearance: Most people do not realize it, but chronic using and abusing drugs and alcohol not only takes a toll on our relationships and physical and mental well-being, it affects appearance. To prove this, grab some photos of yourself prior to using drugs or alcohol and look in the mirror. What do you see and do you like what you see? As people return to healthy lifestyles, they regain better complexions, weight stabilizes and even your eyes shine a little brighter. Some treatment center social media pages show side-by-side pictures of clients on admission day and graduation day to see the healthy improvement made in just 30, 60 or 90 days.

2 – Money: Typically, people with a substance abuse problem spend every spare dime they have on obtaining drugs/alcohol. Just think how much financial freedom you will have if buying drugs isn’t the number one priority. You’ll have money for a nice dinner, nice clothing, a dependable car, plus some to put into savings for a nice trip or other future needs.

3 – Mental Strength: One of the hardest challenges in life one will face is that of becoming and staying sober. The process of recovery develops strength, giving you the courage to face new challenges.

4 – You can be yourself: Through sobriety, people gain a sense of self-confidence and self-worth. Sobriety allows you to accept yourself, flaws and all, and most importantly, like yourself. We often read that the best relationships happen when you are happy with yourself instead of looking for something or someone else to fill a void.

5 – You are understanding and compassionate: One of the tools in recovery programs is how to build healthy relationships. Recovery is very humbling. Individuals are taught how to listen to one another, to become understanding, show compassion towards others and give back to the community.

6 – You’re NOT Drunk: How many times have you said or done things while under the influence of drugs or alcohol that you wish you could take back? In recovery, you have a better sense of appropriate boundaries and behavior.

7 – You have your act together: In recovery, you are accountable, responsible, respectable and employable. You know when to ask for help and you are willing to help others. You have learned from your past struggles and have made it one of your strengths.